Over the last 6 months, one of my core beliefs that define how I live and interact with the world around me has been significantly challenged.
Locus of Control
The byproduct of this philosophy is that you take extreme ownership for what happens in your life. There is no one else or thing to blame.
This philosophy rests on the assumption and belief that the world is more or less just.
The Dark Side
The dark side of all of this is that I live with a high need for control.
Challenging This Belief
#1 I’ve believed that if you make good decisions and take positive action, it will create positive outcomes in your life.
It’s shifted my perspective on things, such that rather than viewing my life as the result of actions I have taken, I’ve taken the perspective that my life, the people in it and the work I do is an incredible gift, that I am very fortunate and grateful to have.
#2 While I can influence a significant amount of my life, ultimately, there so many are things outside of my control.
“The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own . . .”
—Epictetus, Discourses, 2.5.4–5
It has helped me identify when I should live from my internal locus of control and take responsibility to influence and change outcomes in life around me and when instead, I simply need to let go and accept what is occurring in my life.
Hey, I’m Rowan. I’m the CEO of Art of Smart Education and I’m on a mission to help 1,000,000 young Australians answer the big question, “What am I going to do with my life when I finish school & how do I get there?”